I do not like asking for help

I do not like asking for help - Gerda (78) and Finn (76 years) are married. Gerda has a hip replacement which has dislocated three times.

Finn has had to take over many of the things that I just did. If he doesn't see what needs to be done, then I say it. In this way, it is different. I have a little more to do. I think it's gone very well, has it not? Yes, yes. Absolutely. Absolutely. There's no harm in that. No. No. Probably not. Gerda has relaxed a bit, and I have moved my muscles. Yes.

The biggest challenge for me is to ask for help. Because you want to do things yourself, so it is difficult - it still is. It will continue to be. You have to ask many times. If you ask her something or other, and she says "I don't think so." But then I sometimes I have to cut in and say "This is how we do this." But that is because she is afraid that I'll to do too much. Yes, she cares too much about me I think. These are the types of things at play.

Otherwise I get annoyed at her when she doesn't say anything, and instead she just does it - or she's about to drop it or have problems. Then I may say to her: "You could just tell me". "I know, but I didn't want to", she'll reply. That can be irritating. Since I want to help.